Ok, there's this whole theory about how you develop your attachment style as an infant, depending on how you are taken care of, and that style tends to stick with you for the rest of your life.  This chick named Bartholomew sort of extended that original idea and came up with 4 adult attachment styles, based on combinations of self-esteem and interpersonal trust.  However, your attachment style CAN change because of your experiences in relationships (good or bad), and some studies even show NO connection between someone's attachment style as a baby and their style as an adult.  So don't think that your attachment style as an adult is totally connected to the way you were treated as a baby...it might be the exact opposite.

Anyway, here are the 4 adult styles.  Read the statements under each category, and decide which category most fits your personality.  (Disclaimer: These were taken out of my book...I don't take credit for any of it.)

Secure Attachment Style  (High self-esteem, Interpersonal Trust)
1.) I find it easy to meet new people.
2.) I enjoy looking at myself in the mirror.
3.) I'm very happy with my life right now.
4.) Dancing is great.

Dismissing Attachment Style  (High self-esteem, Interpersonal Mistrust)
1.) I had rather depend on myself than on other people.
2.) I don't like to reveal things about myself to others.
3.) My friends seldom live up to my expectations.
4.) I can get along quite well without a close emotional relationship in my life.

Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style  (Low self-esteem, Interpersonal Mistrust)
1.) Whenever I hear a doorbell ring, I'm usually a little worried about who it might be.
2.) I feel that most people don't like me.
3.) I don't have much to be proud of.
4.) It's really much safer just to think about a relationship instead of actually initiating one.

Preoccupied Attachment Style  (Low self-esteem, Interpersonal Trust)
1.) I am more affectionate than my partner.
2.) I fall in love easily.
3.) Sometimes I tell people too much about myself.
4.) My most important goal is to be truly appreciated by another person.
 

People with a secure attachment style like themselves and others, seek closeness, and feel comfortable in relationships.  They are very trusting of romantic partners and have a good relationship with their parents.  They are less likely to get angry, but when they do, they are more likely to look for constructive solutions, rather than punishment or revenge.  They form long-lasting, committed relationships and get along well with others.  Secure people are altogether more balanced than people with any other style.

People with a dismissing attachment style tend to have a very positive (sometimes unrealistically positive) self-concept and believe they are worthwhile and independent.  They feel that they "deserve" a close relationship, but avoid actually getting close to someone, because they expect the worst from others.  They tend to see relationships negatively and avoid face-to-face interactions (preferring contact like email).  They also have a tendency to drink alone.

People with a fearful-avoidant attachment style see both themselves and others negatively.  They minimize closeness with others in order to avoid rejection.  They are often hostile and don't realize when they are getting angry.  Fearful-avoidant people tend to have problems getting along with others, are often jealous, and tend to use alcohol to reduce anxiety in social situations.

People with a preoccupied attachment style have a negative view of themselves, but expect that others will be loving and accepting.  As a result, they look for closeness in relationships (sometimes excessive closeness) but are scared of being rejected.  Preoccupied people, along with those who are fearful-avoidant, are prone to feelings of shame.
 

No quiz for this one, but I'm pretty sure I have a "preoccupied attachment style."